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The definitions of femininity and bimbo-dom

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Jul. 7th, 2006 | 05:35 pm
posted by: vulgarcriminal in bimboproject

This is my brief diversion into the more philosophical aspect of this community. Since I brought it up on my own Livejournal a few days ago (the creation of the community) I've been waiting for someone to pop up and say 'you're not being feminist' or 'I can't believe you're conceding to these stereotypes.' It's happened now and I had to think through my response.

Aislyne, despite being a bright and amiable young lady, chooses to shiny herself up in tanning lotion and wear clothes that clearly display her nipples. (Mr. Me: 'She looks like an 80s stripper.' Me: 'I know! I WANT HER BOOTS.') I've never felt, you know, deep down inside that kind of confidence. To me it's all a rather elaborate shell that people hide in. So, I got to wondering what that shell would be like? What do the Jenny McArthys and Lea's of the world do to get by? Does it change you at all? Will I lose fundamental aspects of me, like a love for Depeche Mode and Soduku? (Unlikely.)

A biproduct thus far has been a massive increase in the vanity quotient. Just by paying more attention.

I also don't think that intelligence precludes a tan, or that pale skinned equals ugly. It's just an easy to attain stereotype that's rather fun to experiment with. (Easy for me, as I am a toe head.)

The fact is, as well, that though being a size 8, tan and blonde are stereotypical representations of beauty, they're also effective. Blondes are supposedly human peacocks, tans mean health and wealth thanks to Coco Chanel and thinness supposedly mimics the most fertile time for a woman, in her late teens/early 20s.

Most of the women involved are innundated with post-feminist expectations including a 'meaningful life' with not only a partner but a clearly laid out career plan. I know that when I come to work in my jersey shirts and black pants, I'm not exactly feeling hot. But when I put on my 50s dress and some Dior body oil, things change. Conditioning? Maybe. But as long as you don't actually do what Aislyne does and start chasing after footballers for kiss and tells and you keep your wits about you, I can't see what's wrong with it.

My point is, this isn't a political community. This is for fun, or intrigue, or morbid curiosity. I think there's a particular thought about feminism and feminists that we all have to be bra burning and hairy. But my thought about feminism was always that it was about evening the playing field, that regardless of the way you choose to look, you can succeed. I'm not pretending there aren't benefits though. A study was done a few years ago that pointed out women who wear make-up to work by in large, have better salaries. A cause wasn't mentioned, so it wasn't said that more high paying jobs are professional where it's expected but it was still relevant.

Sure, it's unfair. Every day I'm surrounded by fat bald boys in frumpy clothes who make way more money than our uber groomed receptionist or 3/4 of similarly styled sales force. That sucks. But, spending time on how you look to fit in just that little bit better is a personal choice and sometimes requires as much thought as trying to break the mold. To paraphrase a very smart young lady, the less you fit the more hassle you get. The lack of hassle can be refreshing.

There's no reason you can't be a feminist, support NARAL and still be attractive like a Pussy Doll.

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From: vulgarcriminal
Date: Jul. 8th, 2006 09:54 am (UTC)

I'm not saying it doesn't take work to fit in, I'm bemoaning the fact that fitting in is seen as necessary/desirable in this day and age. And bemoaning is the right word, emphasis on the moaning, and I understand there's very little I can do about it.

But that has always been true and probably always will be. On a purely technical level, humans are pack animals and inherently social. It's part of our development process to learn the boundaries of said pack. Some of the standards, at the moment, may seem oppressive but I doubt anyone realistically believes all women will adhere to them voluntarily.

It's not a matter of lumping you in with the hairy bra burners. Those are just the stereotypes of the feminist. There's nothing wrong with being one either but at the same time, there's nothing wrong with wearing certain aspects as an experiment or even as a lifestyle if you find you like it. It's all a matter of personal preference.

I'm not bothered by the questions or the criticism... in fact, I was expecting it at some point and feel like I can defend it from a sort of post -feminist arena to a certain extent.

I'm not sure why.... But I'm sure that the women involved aren't so shallow as to have their philosophies overwritten by a bit of fake tan.

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From: vulgarcriminal
Date: Jul. 10th, 2006 09:16 am (UTC)

Ah because we're involved in subcultures that disdain fake tan as a sign of beauty.

It's like changing packs.

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